Thursday, 29 October 2015
夜 深，烟花升，灯火明。多少人已经离开了家，多少人将要离开家，又有多少人想要回家。多少人在异地不经意的抬头，看见烟火绚烂的绽放，失落感油然而生，可 为了所谓的梦想，多少人无可奈何，百感交集。家里的灯火或许没那么美丽，烟花或许没那么灿烂，但是自己的内心仍能感受到家的体温，它像母亲的双手般温暖， 父亲的教导般纯朴，亲人的劝告般温馨。它流在你的血液里，扎根在你的骨髓中。它无时不刻不在提醒你，让心回家。
公益回家的广告，煽动了我 们多少泪点，也唤醒了我久已沉睡的心。父母在，不远行。直到今天我才大彻大悟，这句话说了两千年，可有多少人才能明白它的真谛？ 有多少人能按照它的旨意前行？起码我不是，以前不是。我不得不悔恨自己，悔恨当初。曾经一心想飞，想离家远远的，越远越好。抛开一切，逃避束缚，为了所谓 的梦想，可怜的父母，在所谓面前低人一等，而他们没有半句怨言，依然在静静的支持你，鼓励你。背后的辛酸与泪水你看不到，你看到的只是灯红酒绿，你看到的 只是金钱与权力，你看到的只是名声与羡慕！你眼里只有你所谓的成功，只有你的片刻的掌声与欢笑。你没有看到，父母的孤独与寂寞，他们什么都不需要，只要你 的陪伴与电话！他们只想要一个完整的你，一个健康快乐的你。有时候他们只是想见你一面，想听听你的声音，这你都不能满足，又怎能谈成功？
我 欠他们的太多了，多的一辈子都无法弥补，这是一种罪，天大的罪，罄竹难书。我们太吝啬了，小气到在家就不曾说句感激的话，不曾多一些时间多陪一陪他们。 而我们呢，很忙，真的很忙。我们忙什么了？睡觉？玩电脑？玩手机？聚会？是啊，是挺忙的。我们给了他们多少时间？一日两餐吗？
内疚是失败 者 的独白，但却是良心的谴责。当车票买到手的那刻，我知道我对父母的歉疚只能加深而不能弥补了。远行，我甚至有些反感了，多少次我扪心自问，按 照这样的走法，与父母的相处机会可是真的屈指可数了。相信很多远行者都是一年回家两次，按照这个算法，我们回家的次数还能过百吗？
永远不会 忘记，我们是中国人，百善孝为先。如果我连最基本的都做不到，我就是一个一事无成的人，一个不完整的人。每次离家我都会躲避母亲的眼神，那是失 望，期望，坚定的汇总。仔细想想，我最基本的责任都没尽到，其他还有什么可谈。家，永远是我们梦境也是我们自己创造的，是我们大脑存在的凌乱的记忆碎片在 梦中被一种无形的力量加以整合与编造，使之存在短暂的真实感，并伴随着醒来渐渐消退。的港湾，心中没有家的人永远是一个失败者。
Wednesday, 14 October 2015
This post is in partnership with Time. The article below was originally published at Time.com
With so much career advice floating around the interwebs, some of it is bound to be poor. Luckily we here at Levo don’t just trust the haphazardly doled-out opinions of self-appointed “leadership experts” and other dubious characters. We go straight to the top—men and women who have worked their way to massive career success — and ask them. What strategies actually worked for them? Which career buzz phrases should be ignored completely? Here are a few pieces of career advice that you should never follow.
1. “Always have a five-year plan.”
Haven’t you heard? Five-year plans are out, pivoting is in. Having tangible goals is awesome and necessary, but trying to plan out the next five years of your life is neither. The best opportunities are often those that you don’t see coming. Being too stuck to your “five-year plan” inhibits you from taking opportunities as they arise, and pivoting in new directions.
2. “Don’t be a job hopper.”
There are worse things to be. Namely, the quiet loyal workhorse who never leaves or makes the money she deserves. It’s a new economy people, job hopping is becoming the norm. These days, employees who stay in companies for longer than two years earn 50% less over their lifetimes. So yes, be gracious and respectful to each and every one of your employers, but certainly don’t stay in a position for fear of being labeled “a job hopper.”
3. “Follow the money.” / “Just do what you love and the money will follow.”
Equally bad advice, from opposite ends of the spectrum. Following the money with complete disregard for your interests is a surefire path toward a soul-sucking career doing something you hate. It may not even be the best financial move in the long term. On the other side of that coin, doing what you love with the expectation that financial success will miraculously follow is naive and ridiculous. As Kate White always says, think about where your interests and talents intersect with the greatest potential for financial success, and head toward those points of intersection.
4. “Don’t be too grabby. Let your work speak for itself.”
This is the kind of advice your Middle Eastern grandfather who owned a small business 40 years ago might give you (not from personal experience or anything). Even if it means well, it is just not true. Remember that episode of New Girl? Jess wants to be vice principal of her school: “I’m just hoping, you know in a few years, I’ll have enough experience that Dr. Foster will consider me for Vice Principal.” Coach asks, “Why don’t you just ask for it?” Jess says, “You can’t just ask for a promotion, you know, you have to earn the promotion with years of hard work.” Coach laughs. Please, don’t be Jess.
5. “Don’t waste time applying to jobs you know you won’t get.”
We just published a great piece from the Personal Branding Blog that addresses this very topic. Just because you think a particular job is a reach or you’re not the ideal fit, that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t apply. Within limits of course—don’t start applying for wedding photographer assistant positions if you want to be a pharmacist (unless you’ve always cultivated a secret passion for photography of course). Every job you apply to is an opportunity to tighten up your resume, hone your interview skills, and build confidence, which is never a waste of time.
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